Wednesday, March 25, 2020


WHEN ENOUGH…WILL BE ENOUGH!!!!!!!?????????????


I wrote recently a blog called Fear/ Freedom...

Here is an excerpt.
"My freedom , they have been trying to take you away from me, to throw me in a world without freedom, to make me another piece of the puzzle of life, but my freedom a long time ago you made me believe in new ways and I have it forever with me and it will stay with me forever.
Fears you will not enclose me in the silence of the semi-death or the silence of the frozen old age, the silence of the false peace of the soul … I have My freedom in front of me as the guidance of another new life, as the witness of the attempt to cultivate forgotten sides of my being and  helping me to bring it back to the surface…"

But can freedom have real limitations?  Or was I totally unrealistic and probably in dream land?
Sometimes and especially these days I wonder…

The panic is growing every day all over the world with the corona virus  and we certainly did not need that on top of everything we are living in the past few years.

WHEN ENOUGH…WILL BE ENOUGH!!!!!!!?????????????

What can I tell you? It is more and more difficult in this world to stay optimistic and have any kind of  hopes for the future, it is even difficult not to be totally depressed in these surroundings!
But we have to try to overwhelm it,  to continue to be, to believe, to struggle and to try to find some kind of peace and creativity . Despite the incredible circumstances  of our world....

Incredible circumstances  ?
Unfortunately this time it is much worse than just Incredible circumstances!!!!!

Almost 2 years ago, I lived a personal drama and it changed my life totally…Even with all the dramatic events I had to go through during my long life, I was not ready for this kind of attack because I had no way to fight it! How can you fight and deny people the right to talk, to judge you even if they do not really know you or even met you!!!!

Unfortunately many of the people I thought were friends disappeared in the fog of rushed judgement, not a word , not a sign, not anything from them…. They just vanished… May be they were  not interested anymore to call a friend somebody who could not do anything for them….And in my total disarray some of the “friends” joined the pack of the accusers !

Sometimes it looked like some of the “friends” were waiting for a possibility to destroy the one who had been so present in many chapters of life. And I thought before that I was liked by many…. Since in my mind, I had been fair and giving to so many people around me….

So loneliness invaded me and became the new rule of my life. Loneliness is a very serious and dangerous  condition, especially for a person whose life has been to be in contact with people all year long, whose job was to be dealing with others and had very little time alone….

We can try to compensate this new way of life by inventing new activities, new interests and even new professional occupations but too often loneliness is still the center of this new life and everyday becomes a challenge, even if we want the world around us to believe that we are doing fine , that we are in great shape and totally adapting to this new life.

I do not know what would have happened without the support and the love of my family, my wife Diana and my daughter Vanessa…. But also a few friends…. I will not forget it!!!!

Today, with the tragedy we are living , almost everybody is plunged in some kind of loneliness, and most of us have or will have difficulties living with it…. Loneliness is hard to deal with.

But we have to manage this condition and  try to avoid being overwhelmed by it….
Please stay in touch with the ones you call your friends, do not ignore them, they need you, even if you have no news for a long time!!!! It is the right moment to be in contact again , to care for them , to ask questions , to be there, to ask if they need anything you can do for them.
YOU HAVE TO BE THERE FOR YOUR FRIENDS...                

We have to turn the page of former misunderstandings and even if we had been hurt by some actions , we have to try to forget and communicate again with everybody who was at one point close to us….
 ENOUGH BAD FEELINGS, TIME HAS COME….

Every day we hear that somebody passed away, somebody we loved or liked or admired, , and they go while we have not been with them or exchange anything for a long time… Yes I know at my age I know an incredible amount of people and the chances that somebody will die are bigger than when I was thirty or forty but....But very often these people passing away are in their thirties or forties... How can we just turn the page when somebody we called a friend at one point disappear when we have not exchanged a word for so long??? Yes , I know life is life , and we cannot be always present in the life of others forever, but…Let’s try to minimize ignoring the people who were close to us…. They made who we are, they were part of our development, they should be forever in our mind and heart.

ENOUGH IS ENOUGH!!!!!


Every day we are assaulted by political craziness around us and most of us do not know where to turn in order to find a satisfactory or even a possible solution,  for the past few years the world of the arts is falling apart and the decadence of the traditional culture is accelerating to a point of no return. Yes, the needs of society and the meaning of culture change all the time  but let’s be sure it is replaced with something worth it….

Every day we hear about new manifestations of racism, and most of us are afraid to become a victim of it, because we are African American , Jewish, or born in another country, or raised in hell… I remember when I had the position of general director in Montreal, somebody wrote …”Why do we need a French Jew at the head of the Montreal opera…. “
And that world of hate is even worse and is manifesting itself almost every day… And we have to deal with it, and use the freedom we have to judge it and to act if necessary…

ENOUGH IS ENOUGH!!!!!

The world we have created and we have to live in ,because of new ways of behaving and all the calamities, became a circus where we should live like if we were already dead… Not enough people want others to really think, create, or even exist…Or share friendship with others….                                                       

Despite all these concerns we live in a country where we should still be capable of real emotion, and we have to continue to be, to believe, to struggle and to try to find some kind of peace and creativity .

ENOUGH IS ENOUGH!!!!
EVEN WITH THIS NEW CALAMITY ENGULFING US….. CORONA VIRUS…..

Yes social distancing is the new rule, but let’s do it with caution, it does not mean stop caring for others, not giving news, not asking questions about their state, not BEING THERE FOR THEM….
Freedom has still to be always the rule of our life, even if we have to adapt our freedom to new rules because of dramatic events, we can still be free to think, we can still be free to feel, we can still be free to take care of friends, we can still be free to control our fears if we have to….We have to learn how to use our freedom the right way, try not to plunge too fast in judgement and create loneliness for others….They very often do not deserve it…

ENOUGH IS ENOUGH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


2 comments:

  1. Bernard thank you for this reminder. But even more thank you for your incredible generosity over the years. I wrote to you before privately to express this but I will do it publicly. You’ve helped so many people and organizations over the years - including me, and I’m forever grateful. We will survive these trials as we’ve survived the others before it. Much love to you and Diana.

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  2. Thank you so much!!! We really needed this post, now more than ever! All my love, Alina

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