AGING…
"The older I get, the more clearly I remember things that
never happened.” “The older I get, the greater I was.” "I’m at that
age where my back goes out more than I do." - Mark Twain
Aging
people have fewer friends than when they
were younger…It seems that people in general stay away from aging people feeling
that they do not have too much in
common. It could be the belief that older people do not connect with today
needs; Do people sometimes really show an uncontrollable disdain for knowledge
based on experience, or is it pure fear of the unknown since difference of age
creates the unknown ? Yes the difference of age creates the unknown ,
especially in the times we are living where everything changes so fast, with
new rules daily.
"The important thing to remember is that I'm probably going
to forget." - Unknown
"You know you are getting old when everything either dries
up or leaks." - Joel Plaskett
I
am constantly thinking of the people I love... Thinking of what I did not give to them, and I do not know
what to do. My heart is beating of
unfinished love, not knowing if there is a next step and sometimes knowing too
much…Life went so fast, I am tired very often the entire day, I cannot think
the way I did before and I cannot talk
to a lot of people…But I am still here dreaming
about great achievements.
You are always being asked to do things, and yet you are not
decrepit enough to turn them down." - T.S. Elliot
Why
do I have to think about all this. Very few people want to talk to me and even
many people forget that I am still around… So many former friends are not
present in my life and rarely give news, and I
do not want to harass them. Maybe it was only in my mind, my imagination
that they were friends, I knew so many people, where are they? … Maybe they are dealing with their own
difficulties and have no time for an AGING former friend…AND I HAVE WITH ME THE
MOST IMPORTANT: A FAMILY I LOVE IMMENSELY…
"We don't grow older, we grow riper." - Pablo Picasso
I
know every generation has problems , I know every generation is asking for
something different while the older one wants to preserve the rights and
qualities of life for which they fought… BUT these days it is going faster and
faster, and aging people cannot recognize the world they are living in, knowing
that tomorrow will be again different… Most of the time, they find refuge in silence, or talk nonstop to say
nothing in order to hide disarray, fear. And they
have to adapt again day after day , hour after hour….
BUT
PLEASE DO NO lose connection with YOURSELF… We cannot forget who we are and who
we were, it is the only way to survive and maybe to create more.
"First you forget names, then you forget faces, then you
forget to pull your zipper up, then you forget to pull your zipper down."
- Leo Rosenberg
I
am now 78 years old. “The older I get, the better I used to be.” – Lee
Trevino ….Sixty years have passed since this total reconstruction
of my mind. . Sixty years? Did wisdom of old age take over? But do wisdom leave
an after taste of bitterness on the truth? Does the older generation become
bitter with time? Bitterness of having wisdom ruling everything and no room
anymore for invention?
“It's paradoxical
that the idea of living a long life appeals to everyone, but the idea of
getting old doesn't appeal to anyone.” - Andy Rooney
The sky has changed sky...
I look at my youth and I see myself...l am not anymore that child full of
rage...l do not want any more to murder truth, I want only to look at a
possible truth.
Truth of what? Truth of the
creation of imagination, Of the unfinished fantasies ? Is Truth just proof of
supernatural? Is Truth a proof of nonsense? And today, does truth really has a
meaning, a purpose?
"I was thinking about how people seem to read the bible a
lot more as they get older, and then it dawned on me—they're cramming for their
final exam."- George Carlin
My youth
you are far away now, lost in the inconsistent memories, the memory of the lost
senses, but I keep for you affection ... Yes my youth, I really love you and
admire you.. You are not around anymore,
but I keep the memory of your great consistency, and even if it is a shock to
witness your disappearance, I continue to smile thinking of you and be full of
tenderness for who you were… Youth you will always be present in my mind, in my
memory…
"Inside every older person is a younger person wondering what
the hell happened." - Jennifer Yane
Aging !!!! We could become dangerously
stagnant and too often with the impossibility to function with imagination and we
become suspicious and sometimes we could be pushed away…
I know and I realize that life is not the
same, health is often a problem, I will develop this subject, too negative and
you all know how positive I am about life and everything.
Aging people should be sitting on an
armchair in a retirement home looking thru the window at the emptiness around them
and smile with beatitude looking at the new generation? They should smile thinking of their successful
youth so long ago and disappear behind it… Is that a manifestation of Aging?
"Old age comes at a bad time." – San Banducci
Is
that a definition of not belonging to a new world? Is it another moment in time
when what is happening does not coincide with reality? What is REALLY my
reality? I cannot guess, is my reality to accept my loneliness? Is my reality
to accept that the big majority of people is not interested in my life, my
feelings, my thoughts, my leftover creativity.
"When I was young, I
was called a rugged individualist. When I was in my fifties, I was considered
eccentric. Here I am doing and saying the same things I did then, and I'm
labeled senile." – GB
I can still have opinions and ideas; I
was and still am alive.. I did not let life, but events of life guide me by the
tip of the nose... When you look at me, please do not do it with impatience.
Realize that most of us reach
the different steps of life, youth, maturity and then the AGE DE RAISON,
thinking that it is forever, that nothing will or can stop us, that it is a
perpetual story in the making… We just have to find the next chapter…
"Old age is like a plane flying through a storm. Once you
are aboard there is nothing you can do about it." - Golda Meir
I have to say that today the aging PEOPLE look
at the young one with disdain, with sometimes jealousy, with non-acceptation of
the new needs , with the refusal of the new freedom in so many aspects of life.
Pretending all the time that the young people know nothing, have nothing,
believe nothing, and are just the product of the internet and social media, and
they should go back to school of life,
they should learn how to behave in public and in private. Aging people pretend
that Knowing is becoming a handicap if it is not based on real knowledge of the
past and history…
"Nice to
be here? At my age it’s nice to be anywhere." "At my
age, flowers scare me." - George Burns
The
young people, they are only interested in
their phone, their silly music, the image they project on others, and the
insistence of having everything as fast as possible without really deserving it. The young generation
according to the old one has no culture, no morality, no sense of belonging, no
tradition, they refuse the basic way of honor, they think only about money and
adventures, only about factice and easy success. THAT
IS NOT TRUE… The young generation has other priorities, and often valid ones.
“You spend 90 percent of your adult life hoping for a long rest
and the last 10 percent trying to convince the Lord that you’re actually not
that tired.” – Robert Brault
So Aging
is not an easy task, but it is unbelievably
difficult if we have to go through it only with our family, with nothing else,
nobody else, every day looks like an eternity, every hour is a punishment,
please take care of the AGING, be close to them, consider them, stay FRIENDS….
"Time may be a great healer, but it's a lousy
beautician." - "When your friends begin to flatter you on how young
you look, it's a sure sign you're getting old." - Mark Twain
